Maybe they also think that a foreign woman might expect from their man that he’s telling his feelings straight out several times a day, something a shy Japanese man just won’t do.
Another problem is that many of the Japanese men seem to be afraid of their English ability and thus fail to approach a foreign woman.
Before we start talking about “Dating in Japan” one thing should be crystal clear: If you’ve ever been to Japan you might have noticed that there’s a tremendous number of (often not so handsome) foreign guys walking hand-in-hand with Japanese women.
However, be warned: If you want to read about bragging stories of all those Western guys who get laid a hundred times per day, then you came to the wrong place. You certainly won’t find that here – and not from a foreign girl like me!
In relationships where the man is foreign I noticed that they mostly speak his native language.
Although they live in Japan and sometimes even have children together who also speak Japanese, the foreign guys don’t / can’t speak Japanese.
For some guys it really gets to their heads and they start bragging about it like crazy as part of the superstar syndrome.
Of course, you get a lot of attention and there’s all this staring, but it’s not because anybody is flirting with you … It might be a different story in bigger cities such as Tokyo and Osaka with a more international community, but in smaller cities and in the countryside with more traditional ideals it can be very difficult for foreign women.I personally know a few couples where either the man or the woman is foreign and I noticed quite a lot of differences in the kind of relationship they have.Please note that the following is based on my personal experience and that not everybody out there is like that.I’m sure you have your own and there’s much more behind all this, but that’s it for starters, I guess.As a result, dating in Japan is usually quite easy for men.Because of all that I’ve seen couples who got divorced, even when there were kids involved.I noticed that those kind of relationships seem to work out better if they live in his home country and not in Japan.For some reason (maybe through the consumption of too many Hollywood movies) Japanese women think that foreign men are like that!They’re not afraid of showing their feelings in public or telling their girls flat out how they feel about them. The extreme version of this is known as “gaijin hunter” and some will do everything for the sake of having one of those adorable “half”-kids (half Western, half Japanese) just to toss their foreign guy later on.Consequently they don’t see the need to study Japanese, because their wives will take care of it all.One big problem seems to be the fact that in Japan the man earns the money, but the woman takes care of it!