I used to compare San Francisco men to Brazilian men and wish that San Francisco men were more forward, but now that I have seen the flip side, I've grown appreciate the subtlety and slowness with which American men say what they are feeling--they say less, but I trust them more. More subtle and trustworthy Brazilian men are rumored to exist. Then again, my ego is missing the outrageous flattery from Brazilian men now that I am not getting it. "Here are some general pointers (which I repeat may not apply to all Brazilian and Latin women): 1)There is a strong sense of family in Brazil. People tend to live close to Mom and Dad, aunts and uncles. Divorce rates unfortunately are growing, so this may change. Children live with their parents until they get married.It is also a matriarchal society (although men had the power for generations, when it comes to raising kids, mothers are considered more important than fathers). That of course makes kids closer to their parents, and affects how they see their future family as well.5) Latin people in general are more emotional and more possessive, keep that in mind when you fight with her.Tears, jealous fits, strong reactions to something you did wrong are all typical of our emotional nature.
We do not have that tradition (see my post about engagement rings).Perhaps that's why they are less drawn to my honey.I talked to my friend Marcello about the Brazilian penchant for passionate, urgent overtures--he explained that when Brazilian men feel something, and they want to express it, even if the depth of their feeling seems kind of bizarre. There's so much that I like about Brazilian men in general: they're generous--always quick to pour beer first for everyone else at the table; helpful to a fault; fun; optimistic; funny.We are happy with a simpler ring or just the wedding band. The old fashioned on your knees proposal is not heard off in real life.Some of us though, after living in America and seeing so many De Beers ads, may want a diamond ring after all. Americans love the whole creative proposal thing; Brazilians don’t.We consider that cheating and don’t be surprised if your fiancé cancels the wedding if she finds out. Very few men celebrate that, while the bride’s friends do get together to get her presents for her new home.Sometimes men participate as well (a tradition that is also starting here).Men might play soccer with their buddies in the afternoon, women might have a coffee and go shoppping with their female friends but they do not go out at night and leave their partner alone at home.No strip clubs for men in committed relationships either.I remember Carioca men as being incredibly aggressive, and that's certainly their reputation.But I have noticed now that there are downpours and droughts.