"Within the gay community, negative stereotypes reinforce the belief that gay relationships are based solely on physical attraction, and that once youth starts to fade, we are unlikely to have any real or lasting relationships," says Rik Isensee, author of Are You Ready? And remember that the most important characteristics — loyalty, humor, intelligence and compassion — are ageless.
If you think you're too old for love or you stopped believing that you can find someone to love who'll love you back, think again. Focus on what you've gained — rich experiences, accomplishments, survivor skills and wisdom.
I can think of something far worse than being single, gay and older. Dave Singleton works for AARP Publications and has written two books and numerous columns on dating and relationships.
It's also a good idea to ask your closest friends for regular feedback (yes, ask them to give you input on your actions and choices), so you don't get stuck in your ways. Realize you can be single and happy Hey, you don't have to tell me it's tough being gay, single and over 50.
It's not like gay subculture has given us lots of happily dating, older gay male role models.
Then create a profile that reflects who are you, what you want and includes recent photos. Your date will wonder, "If he's not honest about his age, what other lies is he telling? Be self-aware, not rigid One advantage of age is self-awareness.
Don't post the online profile of Dorian Gray by showing off your shiny youth. When you know yourself better, you can quickly size up what you want in someone else.