"That first day I was just really pissed off," Shirley told me.
"The more I tried to contact him, and the more he ignored me, the angrier I got." The next day, she tried a different approach.
I had been Shirley's psychic advisor for almost six months, and she was normally a cheerful, well-grounded, confident woman. Shirley cried for the first fifteen minutes of the call.
They had the occasional disagreement, like all couples, but they always worked it out.
Even through my mimosa haze, I could see that there wasn't a specific pattern that I had followed, except for following my heart.
There was no specific time frame that I had in mind, no formula, no rules, no games. I'm not saying that I haven't had any failed relationship attempts in between the successful ones where I may have slept with someone too soon and never saw them again, because I certainly have.
It doesn't lend to spontaneity and chemistry, and in the beginning, those are two essential ingredients.But on top of that, Shirley began to think that maybe it was over for good between them. I assured Shirley that she wouldn't die, but I did admit that the wait would be difficult for her.She hadn't thought their argument was a relationship-ender, but maybe he did. I felt that Bill had to get over the argument on his own and no amount of pushing would make it happen.My first long-term relationship was with my high school sweetheart. Then there was Rob, who I dated in my early twenties.We slept together on our second date and then lived together for two and a half years after that.I ended up breaking his heart and moving away to Chicago, but if I hadn't, I would bet the farm that we would have been married by now.In my most recent relationship, we waited three months to have sex and then dated for a year and a half.Men relate intimacy to sex and really could care less about the exclusivity talk or any talk about feelings, emotions and the future.In his words, "All guys really want to know is if the merchandise is being returned to the original supplier and if it is going to be kept around for additional test runs." He also mentioned how it takes men a lot longer to become emotionally invested than it does for women (tell us something we don't know, right ladies?The responses differed greatly, as I have a pretty mixed bag of friends.Kristin herself was miffed that she broke her "three date rule." As long as I have known her, she has always stood firm on that policy.