Furthermore, your children need you to be able to walk consciously through the painful adjustment of a divorce (or ending) without putting them through an immediate introduction to a new significant other. And ask yourself, do you really want to be remembered that way?As a single mom, it hasn’t been easy to navigate all of the advice offered as I contemplate what it means to date again following the end of a long-term relationship.“You can’t just stereotype a black male to have ‘baby mama drama’ just because he’s not with the mother of his kids.”Morenike’ Giwa, 29, a mother of two girls, said social media has changed the dating scene so that courting is no longer first and foremost.“I feel like it’s hard dating now,” said the Matteson resident.
This is an important mindset and it will help you maintain healthy boundaries with regard to your children. Stay connected to living humans who demonstrate care, appreciation and love for you.
The Chicago resident says that when he tells single moms about his children, they’re less inclined to pursue the relationship.“Black women can have kids, but when it comes to the man coming into the relationship with kids, they don’t want to deal with it,” he said.
But Michael Haynes, a 31-year-old single father of three, says it isn’t any easier.
As single parents, we need to be clear enough to listen to the “gut check” felt when dating again.
Giving ourselves ample time to heal, post-break, up is key.