It wouldn’t be this bad if you just would stop giving reasons for them to be Part of what is so insidious about the concept of “micro-cheating” is how it plays on anxieties and fears about not just relationships, but modern society.With the advent of social media, always-on Internet connections, texting apps and movie studios in our pockets, we are capable of connecting with more people than ever – and often in ways that others may be unaware of.That is, literallyhow people communicate these days. but quite frankly, the standards raised here are so questionable that I’m left wondering whether we can trust the interpretation of someone who seems to blare “Before He Cheats” 24/7 and Googles “undetectable keylogger” for fun. Why would he give someone a fake name in his contacts? or because he’s hoping to keep it a secret from his controlling abuser?
Did they have a meeting with someone of the opposite sex where no “business” got done?The fact that you have fond memories of your time together doesn’t mean you don’t care for your partner, any more than being nostalgia means you don’t care for your life now.Do they close their laptop when someone comes in the room? or they could want to give their partner their full attention.Now, what precisely “counts” as cheating can vary – for some, it’s kissing, for others it requires the exchange of bodily fluids – but the lines are relatively clear cut. But while we can dicker over whether it’s possible to have an “emotional affair”, sometimes the way we interact with other people can cause our partners distress. Dating expert Melanie Shilling told Huffington Post Australia that mirco-cheating is “a series of seemingly small actions that indicate a person is emotionally or physically focused on someone outside their relationship.” And what would micro-cheating entail?According to Shilling, one example would be texting someone outside your relationship or giving them compliments that you don’t give your partner.Google can do many things, but it can’t provide context.It can’t understand your needs based on knowing your particular circumstances.But hey, I wouldn’t be doing my job if I didn’t at least brush up on the latest dating panics.After reading a series of articles from Buzzfeed, Thought Catalog Let’s begin, shall we?or some other cutesy Millennial-sounding name, there’s a flurry of articles to tell us all to watch out for it. I was blissfully unaware of this current concept until Friday.That was when, as so often happens, my friends decided that evidently I don’t have enough rage in my life.