If you know for a fact that he is online and active, and you decide you must confront him or you will die, don’t go at it in an accusing manner please.
A simple statement like “I noticed you have your online dating profile still up and perhaps I don’t understand the terms of our relationship correctly, could you help me out with this? Not with the ears that want to believe, but with that gut!
When you find your boyfriend is still on a dating site, you have two choices really.
I am not on a dating site, even though it appears I am. So before your analyzing mind goes into overdrive, make sure that he is actually active and doesn’t just have some dormant profile up there.
They are constantly on guard for something to go wrong and checking a dating site for the guy they are dating is part of their ritual. When a man is committed to you he is committed to contributing to your happiness as well.
If this is you, stop right here and please check out the Journey Inward and start doing some inner work. You won’t likely find him still active on a dating site.
Your other options to confronting him is to just accept this truth, he isn’t as invested into you as you thought and downgrade him and stop being so available to him. Downgrade him and continue on with your Merry life!
Invest into yourself, take one of Katarina’s workshops like Leaning Back and Cultivating Feminine Mystique or get her book, He’s Really That Into You, He’s Just Not Ready!