I’ll be the first to admit that people have to get savvy to get good at the 3-date thing.
The Blended Approach Since courtship is rarely feasible, and initial “dates” are usually harmless outings to a Starbucks, restaurant, or other place to spend time talking, some people may try to blend courtship and dating concepts. If a guy wants you to be his girlfriend at the third date, and you like him, but say, “I’m sorry, I need a few months to think about that,” he will probably feel slighted, no matter how virtuous he is.
Yet, the professional singles I met, whether secular or religious, political or apolitical, readily accepted this social norm without controversy.
The first date is the “get to know.” You don’t have to be crazy about someone to go on a first date — it’s exploration.
This approach is supposed to lessen the number of relationships (and heartbreaks) a person has, and is sometimes marketed as a silver bullet to most modern-day dating problems.
More extreme approaches recommend that a girl’s father manage her relationships for her. What courtship bandwagon devotees sometimes fail to recognize is that a budding relationship with potential can quickly turn into a pressure cooker or fizzle out if it is not permitted to grow at a natural pace.