MR’s resident French girl, Laura, has covered all sorts of topics from our end: the right way to order wine, the myth (or truth) that French people hate ice, brunch, Tinder and the universal problem of getting kale stuck in your teeth.
This time, however, with the topic being a bit more…complicated…she enlisted the help of two companions: an American man who is gay and single, and a French woman who is in a relationship with an American man.
This year, I celebrate my 25 wedding anniversary with my French husband. My goodness, I’ve lived longer with this man than any member of my own family.
In fact, I have lived longer in Paris than any other city I grew up in.
While many on the app will never initiate conversation or will chat for awhile until one of you decides you’re not interested, the ones who want to see you will ask you out.
My friends and I have met many French men through Tinder, and thus have learned a few things about the dating culture as a result: If a Frenchman wants you, you’ll know it.
French guy: “A car yellow.” American guy: “A yellow car.”What about how they ask a girl out?
A Frenchie will not “ask you out.” Or if he did, you two would just be together side.
If you’re going out with someone and kissing them, it means you’re in an exclusive, monogamous relationship.What’s the difference between French Guys and American Guys?The French guy puts the adjective after the noun; the American guy puts the adjective before the noun. No, wait, all his photos are selfies and he has this one on here twice. However, if they decide they want to meet you in person, they’ll make a move. On a few of my dates, I had trouble reading the mind of the man sitting across from me. I’ve met guys in bars as well and once was approached on the metro.One day you’ll find your better half.” It’s true, you shouldn’t worry, but you should also stop waiting for the future to arrive. I was just having brunch with French and Americans and this subject came up. It’s not until they talk to an American friend and realize, “Ho! ”American women would never think they just went for a “casual dinner with a friend” — until they speak with a Frenchie: “Ahhh…I thought I was on a date.”Last question: French kissing. Give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar and God what belongs to God. Americans know how to speak English with no accent.(I’m half kidding.)Remember that everything I told you is just a theory.I can’t really find a way to explain how we “DTR” in France, because we don’t. Is there as much pressure in France to be in a relationship? Is that the reason why people can’t find a boyfriend? I truly believe in timing, and I think that “fast loving” (inspired from fast food and fast fashion) created new guidelines in NYC. Nonchalance in every subject is the national sport. If we narrowed everything down this quickly in real life, there wouldn’t be any spontaneity.That is, IF you have established that what you’re both looking for, and often the way that’s established is by not discussing it at all.Not every French guy I’ve kissed has been looking for that, and most of those who weren’t have told me.You’re either together or you’re not, and you figure it out alone. I think it depends on the stage you are at in your life. So what’s a single girl to do if she’s sick of dating and wants a relationship? Someone might see you loving yourself and be jealous.(Is that a different when it comes to dating, just from your own observations among your friends? Besides, can you really simplify men into two broad groups?And pressure is only felt by the one who wants to receive it. One man alone — French or not — is already complicated enough.…But the French are especially complicated.